Okay, so you are asking yourself what did I mean by the question? It is simple! What I am referring to is your life. How many times have you had people whether they might be in your present or past life try to manipulate you in how you live or with whom you choose to associate with. It is sad to think that there are actually people out there who have so little control over their own life or allow other's to determine how they live theirs. Look, if there is nothing to worry about in the way of physical harm or someone trying to come in and interfere with your relationship then why do people allow their partners to make these decisions for them? I have to say that I am somewhat baffled at those who permit their significant others to dictate with whom they can socialize with and to what degree. Doesn't this almost fall into being co-dependent? I think anyone who has ever been in a recovery program will be able to see right through this. Manipulation of another human beings life merely because they are insecure with their own leads me to think that there is still an active addiction happening under the wings. Why else would a person feel so compelled to think they have to determine who their partner may or may not socialize with?
Look, we have all been there at one point or another in our life, however, to continue this path can be dangerous to both parties and lead into resentment. It is best to tackle the issue head on early on before it becomes a festered sore and one that can lead to a broken relationship. There are several ways in which you can tackle this problem and deter it from becoming like a tumor that is growing out of control. The first and foremost item to be dealt with is honesty. You have to speak up and let your partner know how they are making you feel and the direction that it is taking your present relationship. A relationship that is based upon control and manipulations is one that is surely doomed for destruction. There are several warning signs that can be seen by many who are outside of your relationship and more than likely you are feeling them developing inside of you. So what can you do? It is rather simple, believe it or not, but simply sitting your significant other down and letting them know that their constant control over your life is bothersome and is causing you to have feelings that you would rather not have towards them. If this is taken on immediately you can more than likely prevent a disastrous end.
Really who is in control? So many people go through life being driven by the personality of their mate. Believe me when I say there is nothing wrong in wanting to please your significant other, however, there is a limit to everything and being manipulated and controlled by another human being merely because they are insecure does not fit into my book of acceptable behaviors. If you are allowing it to be in yours then all I can say is maybe you really need to take a closer look into your life and what you have allowed yourself to become and more importantly is what you have become at the hand of another. Is this truly the way you wanted it or intended it to be? I certainly do not think so! It is easy to fall into this trap and I have seen myself there as well, however, once you identify it.....put a STOP to it before it gets the best of you and what and who you are! Tell us.....do you know someone who allows their significant other to control and manipulate their life? How does it make you feel when someone does it to you? How long will you continue to put up with it and do you see it as being a disaster in the brewing of your life? These are some challenging questions and ones that can be tough to truly answer with 100% honesty. Give it a whirl and let us know what you come up with!
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